Podcast

Deep Meaningful Conversations

Join Alex Fleksher and Rivki Silver as they explore the topics that impact the lives of frum women through conversations that include candid personal examples, interview with frum women, input from experts in their field and practical advice.

Episodes

S2 Ep. 19 | Work-Family Synergy With Dean Marian Stoltz-Loike

August 25, 2022

For this episode, we’re going with “work-family synergy” instead of the ubiquitous “work-life balance.” Why? Because balance, quite literally, means 50/50. And we all know when it comes to work and home life, that’s not always realistic or ideal. Synergy connotes a combination, hopefully one that is mutually advantageous. And it doesn’t tell us that our work and our home life needs to be balanced. Sometimes it’s combined in a chaotic mixture!

Join us for this DMC with Dr. Marian Stoltz-Loike who is the Dean of Touro’s Lander College for Women and guides young women not only on their educational journeys, but also in finding ways to balance work, family and community.

In this episode of DMC you’ll hear:
The challenges facing frum women in careers, trying to juggle professional and domestic responsibilities
Tips about managing school/work and family
How women can know how and when to contribute communally

We’d love to hear from you. You can find Deep Meaningful Conversations on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter, or you can email us at dmc@meaningfulminute.org.

See you next episode!

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S2 Ep 18 | Kallah Classes 2.0 with Rochel Goldbaum

August 18, 2022
This episode really feels like a tackle. We’re talking about kallah classes, in other words, premarital education. Frum women have many feelings about their kallah classes. Kallah classes are typically where engaged women learn about the laws of family purity. When it comes to premarital education about intimacy, the amount of information shared in a kallah class is going to depend on numerous factors: when you took your kallah classes, who your teacher was, and possibly the community you’re in. So in hindsight, some women feel that their kallah teacher did a thorough job of preparing them for marital intimacy, and others feel that the topic was hardly addressed.
Kallah classes have changed over the past number of years. There has been a communal recognition that kallah classes need to be thorough in covering more ground, from intimacy education to addressing relationship-building skills. Long gone are the days when kallah classes were just about niddah and preparation for the mikvah.
At the forefront of this educational shift in kallah classes is Rochel Goldbaum. Rochel is a highly-sought after international speaker and focuses on marital harmony and intimacy in the Jewish home. She’s a dating and relationships coach, and mentors other professionals in the field. Rochel’s a leader in dating mentor training and kallah teacher training. She’s also the Education Director of MyGiftofMikvah.org.
In this episode of DMC you’ll hear:
  • How kallah classes have changed over the past few years
  • Why changes were made; what was realized
  • How we prepare kallah who may have too deeply internalized the middah of tsnius for marital life
We’d love to hear from you. You can find Deep Meaningful Conversations on social media, or you can email us at dmc@meaningfulminute.org.
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S2 Ep. 17 | Why Humor is Good For You with Yaffa Palti

Humor is much more than cracking jokes and stand-up comedy routines. Tapping into the full power of humor has emotional and physical therapeutic benefits. It’s also a tool that is sourced in our Torah tradition. All in all, humor is actually good for you, and we wanted to know how we can utilize it more in our everyday interactions to improve our lives. Enter Yaffa Palti, who uses humor masterfully in her shiurim and social media content. As you’ll hear in this episode, Yaffa had us laughing – and we definitely felt great after this interview!
In this episode of DMC you’ll hear:
  • How and why Yaffa uses humor professionally and personally
  • Why humor is important to our mental health
  • Why humor is important in our relationships
  • How we can integrate humor if we’re not naturally funny
We’d love to hear from you. You can find us on social media, or email us at dmc@meaningfulminute.org
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S2 Ep. 15 | Five Habits Of Highly Effective Marriages with Kayla Levin

July 7, 2022 1:03:11

Tackling the topic of marriage DMC-style, we’re going with the assumption that everyone who is married experiences some sort of struggle or conflict. That there is at least one area in everyone’s marriage that needs improvement. But sometimes when we hear about “habits of highly effective marriages”, we can easily walk away feeling deflated and uninspired, disappointed that we don’t have those “effective habits” in my marriage. In this episode, we speak to Kayla Levin, Jewish marriage coach and the host of the “How to Glow” podcast, about her pick of 5 effective traits of a healthy marriage and what role we can take to make our marriages stronger. Even if we aren’t where we want to be yet, our goal with this episode is for us all to walk away feeling that we have the tools and newfound perspective to get there.

We’d love to hear from you.

You can find us on social media, or email us at dmc@meaningfulinute.org.

Don’t forget to check out the video of this episode on Meaningful Minute’s YouTube channel!

Show Notes:

Kayla’s website https://kaylalevin.com/

Kayla’s podcast, How to Glow with Kayla Levin https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-glow/id1447257206

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S2 Ep. 14 | Mini DMC about Social Media with Rivki & Alex

July 2, 2022 41:35

Social media: keep or delete? This has been the conversation of late in the Orthodox world, and Alex and Rivki get deep and meaningful about their relationship with social media, and why they’re choosing to grapple with it — and silence notifications.

If you have any topics that you’d like to listen to Alex and Rivki have a mini DMC about, email them at dmc@meaningfulminute.org.

Show notes:

The Social Dilemma documentary https://www.thesocialdilemma.com/

Faces of Orthodoxy social media account https://instagram.com/faces.of.orthodoxy?igshid=YzAyZWRlMzg=

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S2 EP 13 | Body Image with Rachel Tuchman

June 23, 2022 1:14:25

On this episode of DMC, Alex and Rivki tackle body image. They share their thoughts on how this impacts frum women: the messaging we receive about our weight and size during our upbringing from home and peers, pressure due to shidduchim, pressure to keep off weight after the wedding and post pregnancy, and more. The guest for this episode is Rachel Tuchman, LMHC. Rachel’s specialty is educating on weight stigma and diet culture, as well as starting conversations about mental health on social media. In this DMC with Rachel, you’ll hear: The concept of “health at every size” Main challenges facing frum women regarding body image Pressures about body size with shidduchim, and what changes need to be made Helpful guidance for women struggling with body image issues Advice for helping our children with body image.

We’d love to hear from you.

You can find us on social media, or email us at dmc@meaningfulinute.org.

Don’t forget to check out the video of this episode on Meaningful Minute’s YouTube channel!

Show Notes:

Rachel Tuchman’s website https://www.racheltuchman.com/

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S2 Ep. 12 | Mini DMC about Staying Connected with Rivki & Alex

June 16, 2022 23:27

Staying connected to our Yiddishkeit during the various seasons of our lives is a challenge for many. In this mini DMC, Rivki and Alex share the times they’ve felt it, the times they haven’t, and what they’re doing these days to help keep connected.

If you have any topics that you’d like to listen to Alex and Rivki have a mini DMC about, email them at dmc@meaningfulminute.org.

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S2 EP 11 | The Power Of Sisterhood with Aliza Bulow

June 10, 2022 1:01:26

Keeping up our friendships seems like a nice thing in our hectic lives, but is it a necessity? Well, according to research on loneliness, it actually is. Having friends benefits us emotionally, physically and spiritually. There is real power in sisterhood. Don’t believe it? Believe it but don’t have the time or energy to invest in finding and maintaining friendships? Take a listen. On this episode of DMC, Alex and Rivki speak with Aliza Bulow, the founding director of Core, an organization designed to nourish and network frum women as the core of inspiring Jewish communities. Aliza is chock full of insights. We discuss: Why adult friendships are so crucial Takeaways from The Art of Gathering and Together than we can apply as frum women The biggest challenges to creating and maintaining adult friendships What we can do to prioritize connecting to other women in a meaningful way.

We’d love to hear from you.

You can find us on social media, or email us at dmc@meaningfulinute.org.

Don’t forget to check out the video of this episode on Meaningful Minute’s YouTube channel!

Show Notes:

Core’s website https://coretorah.org/

Aliza’s Torah website: https://www.abiteoftorah.com/

The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker https://www.amazon.com/Art-Gathering-How-Meet-Matters/dp/1594634939/ref=sr_1_1?crid=12VL1SW3CPF36&keywords=the+art+of+gathering&qid=1654623403&sprefix=the+art+of+gatherin%2Caps%2C99&sr=8-1

Together: The Healing Power of Connection in a Sometimes Lonely World by Vivek H.

Murthy https://www.amazon.com/Together-Connection-Performance-Greater-Happiness/dp/0062913298/ref=sr_1_3?crid=2RLBQ0Q1ED5WO&keywords=together&qid=1654623470&sprefix=together%2Caps%2C114&sr=8-3

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S2 Ep. 9 | Living Joyfully with Shaindy Plotzker

May 29, 2022 1:07:21

Who doesn’t want to live more joyously? On this episode of DMC, Rivki and Alex talk about what joy means to them, how they find it in their lives and how it can be hard to attain during the challenging times. Their guest for this episode is Shaindy Plotzker, singer and songwriter. Shaindy is well-known in the Jewish music world as a soulful and talented singer, but she’s also well-known for her positivity and general simchas hachayim (joy for life.) Rivki and Alex sit down with Shaindy to hear about her ascent in the Jewish music industry, but also to hear her secrets about attaining and maintaining a joyous attitude in our lives.

We’d love to hear from you.

You can find us on social media, or email us at dmc@meaningfulinute.org.

Don’t forget to check out the video of this episode on Meaningful Minute’s YouTube channel!

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Mini DMC about Shabbos with Alex & Rivki

May 19, 2022 18:08

In this Mini DMC, Alex and Rivki shmooze about Shabbos: what they love about it and what they find challenging about the day in the week they can’t live without!

If you have any topics that you’d like to listen to Alex and Rivki have a mini DMC about, email them at dmc@meaningfulminute.org.

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Modesty: More Than A Dress Code, with Jamie Geller

May 12, 2022 47:12

Tznius, or Jewish modesty, is a hot button topic for many frum women. It brings up lots of various feelings. Each frum woman has her own relationship with this value of modesty and its application in our everyday lives, whether it’s how she dresses, how she acts and how she expresses herself. For some it’s a love relationship, for some it’s a hate relationship and for others it’s a love/hate relationship. In this episode of DMC, Alex and Rivki get real about tsnius the things they most appreciate about this mitzvah and way of life as well as the things they find most challenging. Their guest, Jamie Geller, chief media and marketing officer at Aish Global and founder and CEO of Kosher Network International, joins this DMC to share her insights on what tsnius means as a public figure. Jamie also shares a bit about her evolving relationship with tznius – as someone who came to observance later in life, and as a mom of teenage girls. We hope that by the end of this episode, you’ll have a newfound appreciation for the middah and mitzvah of tznius from hearing real experiences, honest perspectives and candid reflections.

We’d love to hear from you.

You can find us on social media, or email us at dmc@meaningfulinute.org.

Don’t forget to check out the video of this episode on Meaningful Minute’s YouTube channel!

Show Notes:

Faigy Zelcer’s Penimi program (please note that Alex accidentally called it “Penini” instead of “Penimi” https://www.penimi.org/

Jamie Geller’s website: https://jamiegeller.com/

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S2 Ep. 6 | Frum Female Entrepreneurs with Chayale Kaufman

April 28, 2022 41:28

If you’re a business owner, an aspiring one, or an admirer of the incredible female entrepreneurs in our communities, then this episode is for you. On this episode of Deep Meaningful Conversations, Rivki and Alex have a DMC with Chayale Kaufman, the CEO of the Jewish Content Network which provides advertising to the Jewish world, offering digital, print and social ads across dozens of different publishers. They discuss how Chayale got started, the risks she took, how she’s achieved success and her perspective on entrepreneurship for frum women – with nuggets of advice and insight throughout about work-life balance and running a business.

We’d love to hear from you.

You can find us on social media, or email us at dmc@meaningfulinute.org.

Don’t forget to check out the video of this episode on Meaningful Minute’s YouTube channel!

Show Notes:

https://jewishcontentnetwork.com/

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S2 Ep.5 | Overwhelmed and Burnt Out, and What to Do About it

April 3, 2022 56:39

On this episode of Deep Meaningful Conversations, Rivki and Alex talk about managing the very real human emotions of overwhelm and burnout. As frum women, we have a lot of responsibilities to juggle, and sometimes it feels like we can’t do everything we need to do as well as we’d want to. Rachel Hercman, LCSW to the rescue! On this DMC with Rachel, we discuss: What the struggles of the overwhelmed frum woman typically looks like Solutions for managing overwhelm The role of burnout in meeting our responsibilities How social media has impacted our attitudes towards struggles.

We’d love to hear from you.

You can find us on social media, or email us at dmc@meaningfulinute.org.

Show Notes:

Rachel Hercman’s website: https://rachelhercman.com/

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S2 Ep.4 - Frum Finances: The Mystery of Orthonomics

March 21, 2022 42:16

Orthonomics, a.k.a frum finances. Don’t start having heart palpitations and passing up this episode. While the discussion about the mystery of how to pay for the lifestyle we lead as Orthodox Jews can be stressful, on this episode of DMC, Alex and Rivki talk with Yael Trusch, host of the Jewish Money Matters podcast, and get a whole mindset overhaul on how we approach the concept of money as Jewish people. Don’t let this episode get away. On this episode we discuss: A recap of Alex’s “Fuzzy Math” article in Mishpacha from January 2021 that started much of the communal conversation on frum finances A new take on the typical understanding of “orthonomics” The financial challenges unique to frum families and the common pitfalls frum families often fall into when it comes to finances The Jewish approach to money Tips on budgeting, saving, spending and splurging Advice for those of us feeling pressured to keep up with the rising material standards in many of our communities

We’d love to hear from you.

You can find us on social media, or email us at dmc@meaningfulminute.org.

Show Notes:

Alex’s “Fuzzy Math” article: https://mishpacha.com/fuzzy-math/

Yael’s Jewish Money Matters Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/jewish-money-matters/id1407025695

Yael Trusch’s website: https://jewishlatinprincess.com/

Yael’s Money Date checklist: https://jewish-latin-princess.ck.page/164d22d345

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S2 Ep.3 | How Do I Become More Resilient?

March 6, 2022 46:16

We all want to be more resilient, to bounce back during times of stress and upheaval. But is resilience just about bouncing back to who we were before we experienced adversity, or is it more? On this episode of DMC, Rivki and Alex sit down with Professor Leslie Gutman, who recently published Resilience: A Jewish Guide to Facing Adversity, Fostering Strength and Living your Best Life, who shares some fascinating insights and helpful tools to help us grow our grit when (and before) the going gets tough. On this episode we discuss: What resilience is, and what it is not How we can boost our resilience What is spiritual resilience and why it’s important Being resilient in face of public vs. private nisyonos By the end of today’s episode, we hope you’ve gained tools to help you build and maintain resilience during the stages and moments of our life when we’re feeling we’re merely treading water, or even sinking.

We’d love to hear from you.

You can find us on social media, or email us at dmc@meaningfulminute.org.

Show Notes:

Professor Leslie Gutman’s website: https://drlesliemgutman.com/

Her new book on resilience: https://mosaicapress.com/product/resilience/

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S2 Ep.2 | Creative Frum Women

February 20, 2022 57:45

Episode 2 Shows Notes In this episode of Deep Meaningful Conversations, we talk all about utilizing our creativity as frum women. We all have creative streaks that express themselves in different ways, but the key is how we make sure we’re expressing our creativity in the context of our lives so we feel whole as human beings. In this episode, we speak with two creative frum women, Bracha Goetz and Devora Rhodes. Bracha has written 40 children’s books as well as a memoir for adults about overcoming food addictions and becoming observant. Devorah is a talented painter who has her own art business, Devora Rhodes Collection. By the end of today’s episode, we hope you will have gotten a glimpse into the blessings and challenges of being a creative in the frum world, and maybe even a spark of inspiration to pursue your own creative endeavors.

We’d love to hear from you.

You can find us on social media, or email us at dmc@meaningfulinute.org.

Show Notes:

Bracha Goetz’s website: https://www.goetzbookshop.com/

Devorah Rhodes’ website: https://devorarhodescollection.com/

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S2 Ep.1 | Vulnerability and Oversharing

February 6, 2022 48:47

Welcome to Deep Meaningful Conversations! On today’s episode, we talk all about vulnerability and oversharing. Vulnerability is a popular topic these days, thanks to the work Dr. Brene Brown has done on the subject, and of course its relevance for anyone on social media. It’s really a fine line between being vulnerable in a healthy way and exposing too much. We talk with Shira Lankin Sheps, the author of The Layers Project, about her work in telling the stories of frum women via photography and interview and her perspective on vulnerability. We also sit down (in person!) to shmooze with Rebbetzin Yocheved Davidowitz who is our “in-house” rebbetzin and therapist to get a clinical and hashkafic perspective.  By the end of today‘s episode, we hope you’ve gained a greater awareness of what vulnerability actually is, how it can serve us, and how not to fall into the trap of sharing too much of the parts of our identity that are not for public consumption.

We’d love to hear from you.

You can find us on social media, or email us at dmc@meaningfulminute.org.

Show Notes:

Dr. Brene Brown’s TED Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability?language=en

Shira Lankin Sheps The Layers Project website: https://thelayersprojectmagazine.com/

Link to purchase Shira’s book: https://korenpub.com/products/the-layers-project

Coupon code: LAYERS10

Yocheved Davidowitz’s Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-deeper-conversation/id1536859442

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